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Quite an interesting topic this one! A taboo because no one really wants to genuinely talk about it, everyone is afraid of being judged so we hide behind the ‘accepatable’ remarks towards it, whether you are for or against. But don’t worry yourself about this, im here to say everything that you are afraid to say.
I think for me the most interesting thing about Valentine’s day is how much commotion it causes, how much rift it causes between the sexes. Now this is one of those fights that neither wants to lose. It’s okay for a singleton like me to trash it and have all sorts of opinions on it, i mean i am not hurting anyone in the process, you could just look at me and say ugh this one is bitter and sad! For someone who is in a relationship to be trashing the day is very disturbing for me…men, this is clearly directed at you\ud83d\ude05. Well because…ladies…truth be told..we all know why you dont ‘subscribe’ to valentine’s, ill deal with you next!
Now, gentlemen! Here is my point: you are in a relationship with someone you claim you love( im hoping this is your claim cos otherwise..what are we doing?) and yet you feel you NEED to take part in this fight, you stand firm on the fact that valentine’s is stupid. Well you may think you have a point, but really, what does this get you? You the guy in a loving relationship? To me it seems the benefits of just going along with this outweighs…by a very large margin…taking part in the squabble. Just take part in the damn celebration, make your girl happy, and rip the damn benefits. You know what’s funny? Iv heard so many excuses..opinions on why valentine’s day is pointless. My favourite one is that everyday should be valentine’s day! Bullshit! Everyday is not valentine’s, just like everyday is not xmas, not everyday is your birthday. And here is another thing..i promise you this, every single person who makes this excuse does not even come close to treating everyday as valentine’s! Y’all are clowns \ud83e\udd21. Now ladies…come’on! This is a safe space, its okay to admit we want the whole shibang that comes with the day, we want to be spoiled, pampered, appreciated, loved! I mean who does not want to get some loving from their partner? Huh? We do …we do! but you know why we won’t admit it? Because you dont want to sound like a nagging nag! Because our boyfriends\/partners are out here listing every possible reason why the day is stupid! You know that feeling deep down..that irky..trenching feeling when you voice out your true emotions and you get ridiculed? Thats a nasty feeling..even worse when the source is your partner. Now we ladies are very smart, to avoid this we shove all these thoughts and feelings deep down, and become ‘cool’ girlfriends, cool wives! You know the kind that is so cool that you just push things under the rug, the kind of cool where you are okay with the fact that your boyfriend spends time with the boys every Friday, now thats a cool girlfriend. We pretend so well that eventually we become okay with the fact that you wont even be acknowledged on the day! Because…well…eye on the price ladies…is it really worth it..the rejection..the dissapoitment? No it’s not, so we die slowly inside each year and hope that someday the gods of miracles will look at you with a kind eye and hopefully switch the opinion of that damn man in your life!
The big debate, and the argument that our loving partners raise is, why is it always the men that are expected to cough up the money (interesting story, this is what i was told by a boyfriend). Now this becomes such a big thing because i guess they feel this is unfair, why do they have to buy flowers, chocolates, plan dates…again..fellas..this is your damn girlfriend! What the fuck is the problem here? When did spending money on your person become an issue? Why is this a debate…how…? This makes her happy, why not! What are we doing here..really? What is this? You know im convinced that these kind of talks come from men that are not really into their partners, because it does not make sense to me why this is such a problem, i am honestly confused why this is such a big deal! What has happened exactly that this is the kind of debates we have in relationships! Or have I been in toxic relationships? \ud83d\ude02
Now, ill admit, and this makes me happy, there are plenty of men out here that shower their partners with romantic gestures on this day, and i can bet you real money that these are the same guys that show their partners affection on any other day, be it flowers, gifts, romantic dinners, because why the fuck not! This man loves to love his girl..this makes his girl happy…so again, why the fuck not! You know, im convinced all you loud mouths anti-valentine men in relationships are full of shit, you actually do celebrate the day, the alternative is too disturbing for me…but hey..what do i know!
I really dont want to address the whole thing about who buys gifts and who plans what..because no we are not kids…im not a kid…im 30hundred and at my big age i know and you know that this is not about who plans what..who cares! If i am a woman in love with a man who truly appreciates me, spoiling him comes naturally, planning a romantic date for the 14th Feb is not something i have to debate on, it’s both our responsibility to nuture our relationship! It does not matter! I’m not going to debate on statements such as you don’t get me a gift cos I didn’t get you a gift! I’m too old for that shit!
I know you might even go as far as questioning my knowledge of the day! The inception…how it came about! Again! Who gives a shit…i dont! It’s just a gawd damn day! It shouldn’t matter, what matters is the happiness of your partner! And if you are smart enough, you will realise this post has very little to do with the day! Just love your damn partner! Geez!
Now go on and make the rest of us single people jealous! \ud83d\ude05 Happy National conception Day!
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